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Gary Bunt

“Daffodils”

“The Righteous”

“Daffodils” (detail)

“The Poppy Field”

Today I said goodbye to a very dear friend and neighbour, Mr. Rodriguez.

At his funeral, I learned that his story is a precious one.

In 1957 he immigrated to Canada from Portugal with his wife, Lucinda, two small children and $500 in his pocket.

Although he didn’t speak English, it wasn’t long before he started his own company, Royal Cleaning Services. His hard work paid off, he sold it and opened Antonio’s Fish Market in downtown Toronto. After that, his love of gardening led him to a position as head gardener at Edwards Gardens. His final job was Supervisor of Maintenance with the City of Toronto.

I also learned that his motto in life was to go slowly and do it correctly. I guess that’s what helped him with his uncanny ability to fix things without any instructions or guides.

But something that I’ve seen and known about him for years is his deep love for his family, especially his wife. It has always stood out to me and that, I will never forget.

Two years ago she passed away after a long battle with dementia. With the help of his children, I watched him patiently care for her at home right up until the end. After her death, he created a heart-shaped flower bed in her memory just outside his front door. Watching him tend to it was one of the most tender and touching things I’ve ever seen.

I will also never forget his steady presence in my daily life. For the last five years or so he has always been there. Quietly observing the going on of our little street from his porch or from inside his garage. Like a faithful friend, I could always depend on him to have time for me, to greet me with a smile, wave or warm hello. He was never too busy. I miss him. I miss our daily interactions very much.

So you can understand why I’ve chosen the work of self-taught British artist, Gary Bunt as an expression of my feelings. I find that many of his paintings beautifully depict the comfort and friendship that comes from the presence of a quiet, solitary figure – something that I have come to know, cherish and am now missing terribly with the death of my dear friend and neighbour, Mr. Rodriguez.

— J.

#loss
#friendship

Images: portlandgallery.comportlandgallery.com; portlandgallery.com

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Michael de Adder

Excerpts from my diary:

April 23/18 –
Today it finally arrived! Our first warm, sunny day – the one that we Torontonians had all been longing for. Unfortunately, I found myself buried in my office madly working away. But my #1 goal was to finish up as soon as possible, so I could get outside for a walk and soak up some of that glorious sunshine.
Not far from me, fellow Torontonians were thinking and doing the same, unaware of the horrific tragedy that was about to play out.
Just before 1:30 p.m. – a day filled with warmth and sunshine suddenly turned cold and dark, very dark.
A white van turned weapon began its murderous trip down Yonge Street on a killing rampage. Seven minutes later, 10 people were dead and 16 more injured. A major thoroughfare in our city had become a killing zone and the carnage forever etched in the minds of dozens of witnesses, police officers, first responders, families, friends and colleagues of the victims.

April 6/18 –
A tragic crash in Saskatchewan between a bus carrying the Humboldt Broncos junior hockey team and a transport truck carrying peat moss leaves 15 people dead and 14 injured, most of whom were young players.
Lives tragically cut short and futures gone.
This devastating news hit Canadians deep in their core and left us broken. Shockwaves of grief and sorrow pulsed through the entire country.
*April 11/18 – athletic therapist, Dayna Brons, injured in team bus crash dies

April 26/18 –
Today, three days after the April 23rd van attack in Toronto, Michael de Adder published the above cartoon. Two young boys, one wearing a green and yellow Humboldt Broncos jersey and the other a blue and white Toronto Maple Leafs sweater, sit arm-in-arm, tenderly comforting each other.

His drawing struck a chord with me, as it did with many. I found that it beautifully depicted, in a way no words ever could, the outpouring support that we as Canadians have for each other…Canadians “stick” together and we will overcome together.

Thank you Michael de Adder for your heartfelt expression of what loving your neighbour/fellow Canadian truly looks and feels like.

The greatest artist is one who expresses what is felt by everybody.
— Anagarika Govinda

#TorontoStrong
#HumboldtStrong
#CanadaStrong

Image: twitter

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“Some things just fill your heart without trying.” — Unknown

I miss my little dog.

I miss his quiet presence
gentle disposition
and steady friendship.

I miss his peaceful spirit
and undconditional love.

I miss my lil’ boy P so much.

— J.

#quote
#loss
Image: Pinterest

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